The Support System Every Qween Needs


“Two women in academic dress on flight of stairs” Photo taken by: Godisable Jacob 


Behind every success story is a solid team. For the days we may need assistance, validation or unconditional love we will look to the relationships we entertain to provide us with all of those attributes. Which is why cultivating a network is important. But, not just any group of persons will do. In order for a Qween to achieve the “unattainable” she must have a support network to remind her that she can. To build and solidify these kinds of relationships in your life, read on to learn more about what social support is, why it is important and how it can manifest into your relationships.  


What is Social Support? 

Is described as the various types of support a person can receive during their time of need. Social support is backed by science as an important component to our relationships and psychological well-being. An encouraging support team can help a person work more efficiently despite roadblocks they may face. Among its many benefits are improvement in the body’s cardiovascular system, a broader sense of focus and a positive self-image.   


Creating your Tribe:

Anyone can be an addition to your support team (i.e.,significant other, girlfriends or family). But if you are building your team from the ground up, try this: 

  • Social Media:  Social media sites show the highlights of others' lives, which can provide an opportunity to keep in touch. By engaging with like-minded people we open the door to foster relationships and keep communication flowing.  
  • A friend of a friend: A more trustworthy way towards expanding your network. If you have a friend who acts as a social butterfly, allow them to connect you with their friends. You never know how well things may turn out. 
  • A class or meetup group: group classes and meetups are the best way to build your network without stressing on making the first introduction. While participation and group interaction is required, all you have to do is show up and enjoy the present moment. 

The Support Types: 

Creating social support comes with very little stress. After you have found your person or group, strengthen the relationship using “relationship building activities' ' such as, grabbing dinner, a quick FaceTime call or inviting them out for an indoor rock climbing challenge. After a connection is established you open the door to give and receive social support. Here are the types: 

  • Emotional: refers to the actions people carry out to make us feel loved and cared for. Will include affirmations of one’s self-worth, expressed concern about one’s feelings, or encouragement.
  • Informational: sometimes mentioned alongside instrumental support. Informational support requires the receiver to be  “hands-on” by using information and resources advised by their team to garner more solution-oriented results. 
  • Instrumental:  Is the most tangible approach since it uses physical actions to help the person in need. Common examples include: the sharing of  materialistic items, providing a small loan, helping a friend relocate or bringing a food dish to a family gathering. 

In the end, the strength of your social network can be a great contributor in your life. As you create or adjust your circle, ask yourself “Am I receiving the support I need?” and “Am I showing up for my team too?” Then consider what you need to feel safe and encouraged at all times. For most of us this includes feeling accepted, energized and at peace with those we spend quality time with. Needless to say, every moment together will not be perfect. But, even in challenging moments you should always carry a knowing that you are genuinely and consistently supported. 


By Shay Fuller

Shay Fuller is a contributing writer at Educated Qween. She is a New York City transplant, who enjoys acting, creating digital mood boards and mastering a nice home cooked meal and wine combo. Connect with her on Instagram @shayfuller_. Shay Fuller is a contributing writer at Educated Qween. She is a New York City transplant, who enjoys acting, creating digital mood boards and mastering a nice home cooked meal and wine combo. Connect with her on Instagram @shayfuller_.